There are messages hidden in communication!

   It's impossible to not communicate. Not only when we speak or write, but also with every facial expression, eye movement, tone of voice or even silence, we are communicating. Every behavior and interaction is communication. Every communication sends a message.   We are usually unaware of the underlying messages we are sending when we communicate.  Messages hidden in communication need to be unveiled because people react and respond to them no matter what the intention of the sender is. If a message comes across like a threat, the listener will get triggered and will automatically react with discomfort, and will become defensive. 

Messages hidden in communication have a direct effect on how people respond and react to us. If we desire to stop defensiveness in our communication and in our relationships with others, we need to unveil the messages hidden in communication. 

   We need to become aware of the message that is getting across when we express ourselves. Combined with learning to speak from the heart in a compassionate way, this will radically heal and transform your communication and your relationships. Language has a crucial role in our ability to stay compassionate. While we may not consider the way we talk to be "violent," words often lead to hurt and pain, whether for others or ourselves. Nonviolent Communication is a specific approach to communicating —both speaking and listening—that leads us to give from the heart, connecting us with ourselves and with each other in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish. The term nonviolence is used in the way Gandhi used it —to refer to our natural state of compassion when violence has subsided from the heart. This process is also known as Compassionate Communication.